Parenting values,good parents based on childrenès perspective and ideal children based on parent’s perspective: a qualitative study

This study aimed to investigate parenting values, good parenting, and the ideal child from the perspective of Iranian parents and children. The method used in this qualitative research is phenomenology study. The study population included all parents and children living in Tehran from the period 1399 to 1400. The sample consisted of 23 parents and children who were studied by semi-structured interview. The data obtained from the interviews were analyzed. The result of coding was 385 primary codes, 65 concepts, 17 categories, and 3 general categories.A good parent class includes 5 main categories including moral and human qualities; Providing material and spiritual needs; Having appropriate communication skills; being Informed and resourceful; Being powerful and decisive.The ideal child class includes 6 main categories including moral and human qualities, commitment and responsibility, independence and endurance, activity and self-respecting, adaptation and satisfaction, and health. The resource category of parental origins includes 6 main categories including lived experience, culture, and society, media, religion, education, parents. Finally, based on the result of the study, the model of parenting values is designed and presented. The results of this study showed that the values of parenting and being a good parent from the point of view of children indicates that a good parent has appropriate moral and personality traits, meets the material and spiritual needs of the family, has appropriate communication skills, is knowledgeable and resourceful and  is strong and decisive.