The relationship between couples' romantic perfectionism and women's quality of married life: the moderating role of self-compassion

The purpose of the present study was to determine the moderating role of self-compassion in relation between couple’s romantic perfectionism (self-centered and other-centered) with quality of marital life in the women. This study was of a descriptive-correlation type and the statistical population included married women of Tabriz city. 321 samples were selected using  a convenience sampling method and the link of the questionnaires was provided to them. The tools of this research included: Rees et al.'s self-compassion scale (2011), Abdollahi and Allen's (2022) romantic perfectionism scale (self-centered and other-centered), and Busby et al.'s (1995) marital quality measurement scale. . After entering the data into the computer, the data were analyzed using SPSS26 and PLS3 software using the structural equation modeling method. The results showed that self-compassion has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=0.384),on the other hand self-centered romantic perfectionism has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=0.361),also other-centered romantic perfectionism has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=-0.713). Self-compassion played a moderating role between self-oriented perfectionism and marital life quality, but it did not play a moderating role in relation to other-oriented perfectionism and marital life. According to these findings, the importance of getting to know the dimensions of romantic perfectionism and teaching the skills of self-compassion in pre-marriage and post-marriage counseling, both in preventing the decrease in the quality of marital life and in increasing the quality of marital life, doubles.